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CANBERRA OBSERVED: Gillard government's surrender on illegal immigration

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ECONOMIC AFFAIRS: Will Australians or foreign interests develop our north?

SOCIETY: Same-sex relationships are simply not marriage

EUTHANASIA: Vigilance needed to protect the vulnerable

NATIONAL AFFAIRS: Left demonises opponents on environment, same-sex laws

FREE SPEECH I: Finally, a victory for free speech in Canada

FREE SPEECH II: Uproar at Sydney University over pro-life student group

UNITED STATES: US Presidential race narrows over economic concerns

TAIWAN: Taiwan's globally competitive manufacturing sector

SYRIA: The Moscow-Minsk-Tehran axis propping up Assad

EDUCATION: High school graduates told: you're not special

FAMILY: Madrid hosts inspiring World Congress of Families

POPULATION: China reinforces "one-child policy" with $200,000 fine

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News Weekly, June 23, 2012

THE JANE AUSTEN GUIDE TO HAPPILY EVER AFTER

by Elizabeth Kantor

Purchase THE JANE AUSTEN GUIDE TO HAPPILY EVER AFTER

(Washington DC: Regnery)
Hardcover: 304 pages
ISBN: 9781596987845
RRP: AUD$34.95

 

Reviewed by Rebecca Hagelin

 

Call it the lament of the young, single woman: there are no good men left. Or if there are, where are they? And how can a young woman pursue a healthy, marriage-minded relationship in a singles culture of casual sex and perpetual adolescence?

In her new book, The Jane Austen Guide to Happily Ever After, Elizabeth Kantor provides some answers.

She writes, “Of course it’s no secret that modern mating rituals have gone badly wrong.” And indeed they have: the number of cohabitating couples has doubled in the past 20 years, and the marriage rate has dropped precipitously.

Elizabeth Bennet (Jennifer Ehle) and Mr Darcy (Colin Firth) in the 1995 BBC mini-series of Jane Austen's Pride and Prejudice.

Elizabeth Bennet (Jennifer Ehle) and Mr Darcy

(Colin Firth) in the 1995BBC mini-series of

Jane Austen's Pride and Prejudice.  

Many singles find themselves on a path to lifelong singlehood, not necessarily by choice.

And even within relationships, time-honoured ideals — like fidelity — increasingly fall by the wayside. (A recent Match.com survey found that only 62 per cent of American men believe that sexual fidelity is a “must have” in a relationship. In comparison, 80 per cent of women say fidelity is a must for a successful relationship.)

The Jane Austen Guide to Happily Ever After offers a thought-provoking, encouraging, and often witty take on what’s wrong with today’s dating patterns. Even better, Kantor draws on the wisdom and insights of Jane Austen’s heroines to mark out a confident path for young women who want a good man and a relationship that will deliver a lifetime of happiness — and love — in marriage.

Kantor asks, “What is it that Jane Austen heroines do (that we’re not doing) that makes really satisfying happy endings possible for them, and not so likely for us?”

The author’s interpretation of Jane Austen — whose old, romantic novels became modern box office hits — suggests a model for young women who want lasting, happy relationships. Modern-day Jane Austen “heroines” should cultivate “true elegance” instead of “hotness”, demand love without humiliation, develop competence about men, respect their own female psychology, and take relationships seriously.

Today’s singles often seem clueless about what makes a relationship work or even what they should hope it will include.

And for women, it’s even more confusing. Feminist thought urges women to plan their futures with a single-minded career focus, leaving little room for men, marriage and children. Young women may fall into the trap of pursuing personal autonomy and career success with little thought about relationships, marriage, and family — until they find themselves lonely and alone.

Kantor resists the notion that a Jane Austen-style approach to relationships requires “a life of pre-feminist misery and oppression”. But she stresses that it’s reasonable for women to “spend significant intellectual and emotional capital on our relationships — but in the right way, not the wrong way”.

What’s the right way? Neither romantic illusions, nor Victorian repression, nor modern cynicism. Instead, Kantor writes, women need to understand the real meaning of love and happiness — and settle for nothing less.

Sprinkled throughout the book are “Tips” for “Janeites”, little nuggets of good advice, like these:

• “Stop making the same old bad choices about men before those choices ‘fix’ your character, freezing you into habits you may not be able to break out of.”

• “Drama is not the same thing as love.” (Who really wants a Kardashian-style relationship?)

• “Keep your distance, not to increase his love by suspense — but so you can make up your mind about a man while you can still see him clearly.” (An important point for a generation that too easily moves from the bar to the bedroom to sharing an apartment.)

At the end of each chapter, Kantor frames questions to help readers assess their own relationships. In easy-to-read bullet points, she helps women probe the strengths and weaknesses of their current relationships. And in true Jane Austen style, she urges them to have the boldness to “arrange their own marriages” — to choose wisely and decide fearlessly if a relationship is likely to secure a happy future.

And the Jane Austen promise? That love and happiness go together: women can live “happily ever after” marriages if they recognise, expect and pursue true love.

Share The Jane Austen Guide to Happily Ever After with your daughters — and all the single women you know.

Rebecca Hagelin is a wife and mother of three “20-somethings”, a social commentator and author of two bestselling books, Home Invasion: Protecting Your Family in a Culture That’s Gone Stark Raving Mad (2005) and 30 Ways in 30 Days to Save Your Family (2009). She maintains a website, www.HowToSaveYourFamily.com

This review originally appeared on Townhall.com


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